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Dwayne Wade’s Open Letter on Fatherhood

Dwayne and the Miami Heat may have lost Game 4 of the NBA Finals last night, but it looks like he’s winning in his personal life.   Besides having the beautiful Gabrielle Union by his side, he also has full custody of his two sons, Zaire and Zion.  We all watched as he went through a pretty nasty public divorce with Siovaughn, his kids’ mother, that led to all kinds of hot messes.

In an open letter to Newsweek, Dwayne talks about how rewarding  being a father is (he also sent the super cute picture of him and his boys, taken by Bob Metelus).  It’s titled My Life as an NBA Superstar Dad:

There are a few words that come to mind when I think about the past couple years of my life: challenging, rewarding, transformative—they roll off the tip of my tongue in an instant. In the span of a year my two good friends LeBron James and Chris Bosh joined me on the Miami Heat, I struggled through a painful, public divorce, and I became the full-time parent to my two young sons, Zaire and Zion.

I’ve had some ups and downs lately, but the memories of the unpleasant times disappear quickly, in part because of moments like the one recently when I was able to surprise my younger son, Zion, at his school with cupcakes for his fourth birthday. It was the day after we’d won the Eastern Conference finals, but that victory couldn’t compare with the huge smile on Zion’s face at that moment. I will never forget it. Bad memories vanish each morning when I walk into both of my sons’ bedrooms to wake them up for school—their laughter gives me all I need to face whatever is happening in my life. Not too long ago, due to custody issues, I wasn’t allowed to see my sons for long periods of time, or was given the chance to see them for only a few hours with no idea of if or when I’d see them again. I can’t describe how trying those days were, fighting for full custody while also working as a professional basketball player nine months of the year. I just knew I wanted to be with my kids.

I was seriously motivated to be a full-time parent for my sons. My mother and father weren’t together when I was a kid growing up in Chicago, and early on my mother fell victim to drug abuse. At 9 years old, I moved in with my father because my mother could no longer care for me. Looking back, I now see so many similarities between my own childhood and that of my sons. My father stepped in when I needed him, and that gave me the chance for a better life. That’s what I’m doing for my boys now.

All children need their fathers, but boys especially need fathers to teach them how to be men. I remember wanting that so badly before I went to live with my dad. I wanted someone to teach me how to tie a tie and walk the walk, things only a man can teach a boy. Of course, back then, I never could have imagined being in the same situation someday with my own kids. My dad and I bumped heads a lot—we were so alike, both of us born competitors. My older son, Zaire, is exactly the same way. We’ll battle on the court when I’m 39 and he’s 19. He’s 9 now, and he’s grown up with basketball. Zion could take it or leave it, which is cool by me.

Today, I constantly tell my dad how much I appreciate what he did for me. I think you really have to become a parent to understand what you will endure to be there for your kids. I could say I was surprised at the criticism I received for traveling from Miami to Chicago so often during the regular season for my custody court cases, but nothing really surprises me anymore. I had a duty to fight to be with my kids, and I did it.

Thankfully, I’ve gotten a lot of support from my mother, sister, and others in taking care of my boys and making their new living arrangements a smooth and happy transition. Going forward, I want my sons to have a healthy relationship with their mother, and that’s something we’re working on. I hope to have a great relationship with her one day too, because I know how much it meant to me to see my parents get along as time went on.

I can’t say what we’ll do for Father’s Day, because since my sons came to live with me about two months ago, every day has been like Father’s Day. I just want people—men, and men of color in particular—to hear my story and know that their children need them and that it’s their responsibility to be there for them. We have to step up as men and do our part. There are no excuses.

Eloquent and straight to the point.  Love it!

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Dwayne Wade's Open Letter on Fatherhood

Dwayne and the Miami Heat may have lost Game 4 of the NBA Finals last night, but it looks like he’s winning in his personal life.   Besides having the beautiful Gabrielle Union by his side, he also has full custody of his two sons, Zaire and Zion.  We all watched as he went through a pretty nasty public divorce with Siovaughn, his kids’ mother, that led to all kinds of hot messes.

In an open letter to Newsweek, Dwayne talks about how rewarding  being a father is (he also sent the super cute picture of him and his boys, taken by Bob Metelus).  It’s titled My Life as an NBA Superstar Dad:

There are a few words that come to mind when I think about the past couple years of my life: challenging, rewarding, transformative—they roll off the tip of my tongue in an instant. In the span of a year my two good friends LeBron James and Chris Bosh joined me on the Miami Heat, I struggled through a painful, public divorce, and I became the full-time parent to my two young sons, Zaire and Zion.

I’ve had some ups and downs lately, but the memories of the unpleasant times disappear quickly, in part because of moments like the one recently when I was able to surprise my younger son, Zion, at his school with cupcakes for his fourth birthday. It was the day after we’d won the Eastern Conference finals, but that victory couldn’t compare with the huge smile on Zion’s face at that moment. I will never forget it. Bad memories vanish each morning when I walk into both of my sons’ bedrooms to wake them up for school—their laughter gives me all I need to face whatever is happening in my life. Not too long ago, due to custody issues, I wasn’t allowed to see my sons for long periods of time, or was given the chance to see them for only a few hours with no idea of if or when I’d see them again. I can’t describe how trying those days were, fighting for full custody while also working as a professional basketball player nine months of the year. I just knew I wanted to be with my kids.

I was seriously motivated to be a full-time parent for my sons. My mother and father weren’t together when I was a kid growing up in Chicago, and early on my mother fell victim to drug abuse. At 9 years old, I moved in with my father because my mother could no longer care for me. Looking back, I now see so many similarities between my own childhood and that of my sons. My father stepped in when I needed him, and that gave me the chance for a better life. That’s what I’m doing for my boys now.

All children need their fathers, but boys especially need fathers to teach them how to be men. I remember wanting that so badly before I went to live with my dad. I wanted someone to teach me how to tie a tie and walk the walk, things only a man can teach a boy. Of course, back then, I never could have imagined being in the same situation someday with my own kids. My dad and I bumped heads a lot—we were so alike, both of us born competitors. My older son, Zaire, is exactly the same way. We’ll battle on the court when I’m 39 and he’s 19. He’s 9 now, and he’s grown up with basketball. Zion could take it or leave it, which is cool by me.

Today, I constantly tell my dad how much I appreciate what he did for me. I think you really have to become a parent to understand what you will endure to be there for your kids. I could say I was surprised at the criticism I received for traveling from Miami to Chicago so often during the regular season for my custody court cases, but nothing really surprises me anymore. I had a duty to fight to be with my kids, and I did it.

Thankfully, I’ve gotten a lot of support from my mother, sister, and others in taking care of my boys and making their new living arrangements a smooth and happy transition. Going forward, I want my sons to have a healthy relationship with their mother, and that’s something we’re working on. I hope to have a great relationship with her one day too, because I know how much it meant to me to see my parents get along as time went on.

I can’t say what we’ll do for Father’s Day, because since my sons came to live with me about two months ago, every day has been like Father’s Day. I just want people—men, and men of color in particular—to hear my story and know that their children need them and that it’s their responsibility to be there for them. We have to step up as men and do our part. There are no excuses.

Eloquent and straight to the point.  Love it!


Gabrielle Union: “I Tried To Shoot My Rapist”

With the recent backlash that Rihanna has been receiving for her “Man Down” video another celebrity is jumping to her defense…..Gabrielle Union.

After viewing the video Gabby came out revealing her own heart breaking story about how she was raped,

“Saw ‘Man Down’ by @rihanna. Every victim/survivor of rape is unique, including how they THINK they’d like justice 2 be handed out.  During my rape I tried 2 shoot my rapist, bt I missed. Over the yrs I realized tht killin my rapist would’ve added insult 2 injury. The DESIRE 2 kill someone whose abused/raped u is understandable, bt unless its self defense n the moment 2 save ur life, just ADDS 2 ur troubles #mandown.”

After support was shown for her comment she later went on to say,

“Stranger who robbed the store I worked at,” she said, identifying her rapist. “He put his gun dwn durin the rape & asked me 2 [hand] it 2 him.”

“#Mandown video did a GREAT job of getting the ENTIRE world TALKING abt RAPE.  I hope tht it leads 2 HEALING & PREVENTS RAPE.”

Gabrielle Union took a huge step by coming out with her story but I see the light in the message. I don’t encourage violence of any kind but the over all message of Rihanna’s video was to bring what is a touchy subject to the forefront. While the video may be graphic, it’s in no manner telling rape victims to find their rapist and shoot them. Many will disagree but to each his own.


Gabrielle Union: "I Tried To Shoot My Rapist"

With the recent backlash that Rihanna has been receiving for her “Man Down” video another celebrity is jumping to her defense…..Gabrielle Union.

After viewing the video Gabby came out revealing her own heart breaking story about how she was raped,

“Saw ‘Man Down’ by @rihanna. Every victim/survivor of rape is unique, including how they THINK they’d like justice 2 be handed out.  During my rape I tried 2 shoot my rapist, bt I missed. Over the yrs I realized tht killin my rapist would’ve added insult 2 injury. The DESIRE 2 kill someone whose abused/raped u is understandable, bt unless its self defense n the moment 2 save ur life, just ADDS 2 ur troubles #mandown.”

After support was shown for her comment she later went on to say,

“Stranger who robbed the store I worked at,” she said, identifying her rapist. “He put his gun dwn durin the rape & asked me 2 [hand] it 2 him.”

“#Mandown video did a GREAT job of getting the ENTIRE world TALKING abt RAPE.  I hope tht it leads 2 HEALING & PREVENTS RAPE.”

Gabrielle Union took a huge step by coming out with her story but I see the light in the message. I don’t encourage violence of any kind but the over all message of Rihanna’s video was to bring what is a touchy subject to the forefront. While the video may be graphic, it’s in no manner telling rape victims to find their rapist and shoot them. Many will disagree but to each his own.


Supermodel Jessica White Talks ‘Angel Wings’ About Childhood Sexual Abuse

Many celebrities become the faces of charity organizations towards a particular cause.  Supermodel Jessica White wants the world to know that she didn’t just slap her name onto her Angel Wings Foundation, whose purpose is to give help to sexually abused women.  On Sunday (May 29), Miss White hosted a dinner at Georgica in East Hampton in honor of the foundation where she opened up to the audience about her own experiences as an abused child:

“I was sexually abused as a child, and the work that my foundation does is not going to end sexual abuse, but it will definitely raise the awareness and give room for other women and girls to come forward and begin the healing process,” White said. “This is personal to me, this is not something that I went and slapped my name on.”

Proceeds from the dinner went to UNICEF’s “City of Joy” Program, which supports abused women in the Democratic Republic of Congo.  She talked more about her experiences in an exclusive interview with E! News.  The highlights below:

“I was 14 years old, I never talked about who my abuser was,” she told E! “It was my brother-in-law, my sister’s ex-husband. For the first time I realized I kept it a secret for so long, but why when people weren’t protecting me?” she said. “At 17, I told my older sister and asked her not to say anything, to not tear my family apart.”

“I hated going home, I had holes in my wall, it was the worst situation that a child could ever be in,” she said. “It was a very dark situation that I came from. But God used something very evil into something every powerful and beautiful. I don’t want any other young girl to feel like it’s their fault. The majority of the time it’s caused by someone that you know.”

“This is my mission in life, I’ve actually lived it,” she said. “When you think about that, you see why I’m very passionate about it. We may not be able to stop sexual abuse but we can minimize the stress intake. How I feel today, I truly believe if we team up and we can stop sexual abuse, we can prevent some pedophile from taking some girl’s innocence.”

She also revealed that she is collaborating with Gabrielle Union and other women on a YouTube campaign to support Angel Wings.  Another interesting fact: Jessica is working on a music career, reportedly with some people from Rihanna’s team.

Diva behavior, indeed.


Supermodel Jessica White Talks 'Angel Wings' About Childhood Sexual Abuse

Many celebrities become the faces of charity organizations towards a particular cause.  Supermodel Jessica White wants the world to know that she didn’t just slap her name onto her Angel Wings Foundation, whose purpose is to give help to sexually abused women.  On Sunday (May 29), Miss White hosted a dinner at Georgica in East Hampton in honor of the foundation where she opened up to the audience about her own experiences as an abused child:

“I was sexually abused as a child, and the work that my foundation does is not going to end sexual abuse, but it will definitely raise the awareness and give room for other women and girls to come forward and begin the healing process,” White said. “This is personal to me, this is not something that I went and slapped my name on.”

Proceeds from the dinner went to UNICEF’s “City of Joy” Program, which supports abused women in the Democratic Republic of Congo.  She talked more about her experiences in an exclusive interview with E! News.  The highlights below:

“I was 14 years old, I never talked about who my abuser was,” she told E! “It was my brother-in-law, my sister’s ex-husband. For the first time I realized I kept it a secret for so long, but why when people weren’t protecting me?” she said. “At 17, I told my older sister and asked her not to say anything, to not tear my family apart.”

“I hated going home, I had holes in my wall, it was the worst situation that a child could ever be in,” she said. “It was a very dark situation that I came from. But God used something very evil into something every powerful and beautiful. I don’t want any other young girl to feel like it’s their fault. The majority of the time it’s caused by someone that you know.”

“This is my mission in life, I’ve actually lived it,” she said. “When you think about that, you see why I’m very passionate about it. We may not be able to stop sexual abuse but we can minimize the stress intake. How I feel today, I truly believe if we team up and we can stop sexual abuse, we can prevent some pedophile from taking some girl’s innocence.”

She also revealed that she is collaborating with Gabrielle Union and other women on a YouTube campaign to support Angel Wings.  Another interesting fact: Jessica is working on a music career, reportedly with some people from Rihanna’s team.

Diva behavior, indeed.